Thursday, October 10, 2013

A quote for mindfulness, peace and acceptance

"I prayed for change, so I changed my mind.
I prayed for guidance and learned to trust myself.
I prayed for happiness and realized I am not my ego.
I prayed for peace and learned to accept others unconditionally.
I prayed for abundance and realized my doubt kept it out.
I prayed for wealth and realized it is my health.
I prayed for a miracle and realized I am the miracle.
I prayed for a soul mate and realized I am the One.
I prayed for love and realized it’s always knocking, but I have to allow it in. "

~ Jackson Kiddard
Copyright, Tracey Vale 2013

Wednesday, September 25, 2013

Good news from around the globe, By Tracey Vale

Stories of bravery amid Nairobi's terrorist siege


Out of the horror of this week’s tragic, terrorist-led attacks in the Kenyan capital of Nairobi, two heroes have been regaled for their bravery and selflessness. One is an ex-marine. The other is a four year old boy. Both are British.

As Islamic extremists reigned terror inside an exclusive shopping complex, firing inadvertently at shoppers, a British ex-marine, seated with friends in a coffee shop within the complex, did not hesitate to help shoppers escape. Amid the onslaught of gunfire, he escorted two women to safety outside, then returned again and again, still under resounding, heavy gunfire, to escort up to 100 people to safety.

The siege caused the deaths of over 60 civilians and six terrorists, believed to be Al Shabaab militants. Over 170 people were injured and around 11 suspects have been taken into custody.

The four year old British boy, Elliot Prior, his sister and mother were first-hand witnesses to the unfolding terror in Nairobi’s Westgate Mall, with their mother falling victim to a gunshot wound to the leg after hiding and shielding her children for an hour and a half before being found by a gunman. While his six year old sister hid behind his injured mother, the boy stood up to one of the gunmen, informing him that he was a “very bad man” and telling him that he should allow them to leave. The gunman paused, impressed by the boy’s bravery, and handed out Mars bars to him and his sister, reportedly stating “Please forgive me. We are not monsters.”



An overview of Nairobi's Westgate Mall siege can be read here: http://www.theguardian.com/world/2013/sep/24/kenya-mall-hostage-westgate-nairobi

Man donates his dream of a cure to a 5-year-old boy 


In another story, 25 year old paralysed man, Dan Black from South Wales, selflessly gave £20 000, money he’d been raising for almost four years to fund stem cell research, to five year old, Brecon Vaughan, for an operation that will make him walk. Brecon has a rare form of cerebral palsy and requires a frame to assist in walking. His family needs to raise £60 000 for an operation to be conducted in the United States.

Mr. Black was knocked off his bicycle in 2009, resulting in paralysis from the chest down and a non-functioning arm due to a stroke from the same incident.

‘I know for me that things aren’t going to get better any time soon,’ he said. ‘I just wanted to do something that could help someone whose life could get better.

‘Brecon can definitely walk if he has the surgery. I wouldn’t wish being paralysed on anyone, so if I can help someone walk, I will.’




Reception dinner for 200 homeless


And in Georgia, Atlanta, Willie and Carol Fowler, the parents of a woman who cancelled her wedding plans 40 days before the wedding, has donated the reception dinner to the homeless. With everything booked and paid for, the Fowlers would have lost the non-refundable deposit portion had they cancelled the dinner. Instead, they donated the lot to 200 homeless people through Hosea Feed the Hungry, a non profit charity organisation.

“We went home that evening and my husband woke up the next morning and I was in the process of cancelling out the venue and he said, 'No, what we'll do is donate it to Hosea Feed the Hungry,'" Carol Fowler told ABCNews.com today.

"It was a vision," Fowler said of her husband's idea. "He said he had prayed on it during the night and God had directed him and that's what we were going to do."


Six-year-old boy raises $400 000 for sick friend


Six year old, Dylan Siegal has raised $400 000 in a bid to help his friend who was diagnosed with a potentially fatal, rare disease and compromised immune system.

Dylan wrote and illustrated a book, titled Chocolate Bar, initially raising $6000 through his school before word spread and he included T-shirts, phone covers and bags to his fund raising efforts. The money will fund research into the glycogen storage disease, which affects the liver and causes a potentially fatal and significant drop in blood sugar levels.

Dr David Weinstein, who studies the disease and is working with 200 families, told ABC News that he was stunned by the donation, which arrived, amazingly, one day before his lab was due to close through lack of funding.

"He's raised more money for this disease than all the medical foundations and all the grants combined. Ever."



Saturday, August 10, 2013

Suicide—the silent epidemic, By Tracey Vale

Copyright, Peter D. Kemp
Suicide is an issue most don’t like or want to talk about but it is an issue that cannot be avoided and must be discussed. Current social conditions; aspects of the technological age; the breakdown of the family unit; pressures; conflict; a decline in the sense of community; stretched mental health resources; and economic concerns are among the factors contributing to suicide risk in our young people.

It is a myth that talking about suicide with our youth will plant the negative seed of an idea in their minds. The opposite is true. Talking about it shows that you care; that you are aware of the issue; that you are on top of concerns they may have already witnessed or discussed with their peers; and that they are valued, needed and worthy.

The following are facts on the prevalence of youth suicide in Australia and the subsequent seriousness of the issue, as well as tips for those giving support to at-risk people. They have been collated from a number of valuable online articles, papers and current studies and are primarily Australian-based.

To read further, follow the links in the Reference List and in the Further Reading/Useful Links list, both at the end of the article. Among these, is the valuable resource of In 2 Life (http://in2life.org.au/ ), an Adelaide-based charity organisation passionate about helping and mentoring at-risk youth, for whom suicide is a massive concern.   In 2 Life   is   also   at   the   helm   of   a Facebook site, Coming Together to Prevent Youth Suicide (https://www.facebook.com/groups/preventingyouthsuicide/ ), which has gained huge membership in a short time and was set up to offer support and guidance to suicidal young people. This has saved the lives of a number of our young people. If you can help in any way through either of these resources, contact In 2 Life.

Facts and Issues

  • “Australian studies have found that between 23.5% and 49% of teenagers have thoughts of suicide at some time.”1

  • “Suicide is the leading cause of death among young people, second only to motor vehicle accidents.”1

  • “In remote rural Australia suicide rates for young males are nearly twice those of males living in capital cities.”1

  • “The suicide rate in indigenous communities may be 40% higher than the rate of non-indigenous suicide.”1

  • Suicide “…is an attempt to solve a problem of intense emotional pain with impaired problem-solving skills.”2

  • “Research has shown that 75 – 80 per cent of all people who died by suicide and almost every person who attempted suicide made attempts to communicate to others in the weeks or months leading up to the attempt/suicide that they were in deep despair.”3 However, due to the suicidal person’s ambivalence to death, this communication is often made in a joking manner or in some way that doesn’t express seriousness and is often, therefore, not taken seriously.3

  • “Even the most severely depressed person has intensely conflicting feelings about dying by suicide, and most waver in indecision until the very last moment.”3

  • “…evidence-based programs have been implemented in Italy and Britain, where school time has been given over to the teaching of social and emotional learning. These programs improve self-efficacy and reduce feelings of hopelessness. Students are taught how to rationalise problems and build resilience. Italy and Britain have youth suicide rates less than half that of Australia.” 5

  • “Mental illness has increased in successive generations of Australian youth. About a quarter of teenagers suffer significant psychological distress at one time and more than 7000 young people a year are admitted to hospital after self-harming.”5

  • Creating awareness of the issue of suicide and talking about it reduces the associated stigma, thereby encouraging at-risk youth to seek help when needed. “Lifeline WA chief executive Fiona Kalaf said it was important to talk responsibly and openly about suicide. "It helps reduce the stigma associated with the topic and also with mental health," she said. "The stigma is a key barrier that hinders people from seeking help."”6

  • “The World Health Organisation tells us that our current crop of year 7 boys and girls will face a greater threat from depression than from any other disease by the time they reach 30.”5

  • “Some stress is brought on because of trends in society: the rise of individualism and consumerism; a decline in a sense of community and of the importance of the family unit. Each of these trends has a direct impact on mental health.”5 While this statement is true, there are other issues due to the technological age that require further investigation too and have a massive impact on today’s youth and on future and present levels of mental health. Among these is the prevalence and increase in bullying coupled with the ability to bully through social media and to a far-reaching audience. Another aspect is the impact of graphic adult content, lack of adequate controls around this and the flow-on effect of these images and videos on vulnerable and under-developed teenage minds. Another flow-on effect is the social impact with the objectification of women and the damage to future relationships.

  • “Clearly, many children thrive despite society's influence. But too many of our youth are unaware, or apathetic as they race headlong into what the WHO predicts will be a depression epidemic by 2030.”5


Tips on giving support

The following is sourced online, as listed below, from the Mental Health Social Support Specialty ‘Supporting the Suicidal and Suicide-Bereaved’. (For further information on MHSS: www.mhss.net.au)

  • “Your job as support person, should you choose to accept it, is to strengthen the part of the person that wants to live, by helping them to understand that suicide applies a permanent solution to what is a temporary problem; other solutions can be found.”3

  • “For all the intensity of negative emotion and sincere desire to die, however, there is simultaneously in most suicides an equally strong wish to find a way out of the dilemma. Thus, suicide contemplation is about intense ambivalence. The skilled social support person can tap into this ambivalence, helping the person to swing to the “want to find a way out of the dilemma” pole.”3

  • “By talking to you, a suicidal person is taking a huge risk, but it is a compliment to you, too. It is a statement that, somehow, you seem to be more caring, more capable of coping with adversity, or more able to protect the person’s confidentiality than others. It is a cry for help, and it is a positive, courageous thing that the person is doing in confiding in you about their suicidal urges.”3

  • A suicidal person doesn’t get morbid ideas by talking about suicide; the person already has them. The opposite is true; by bringing up the question and discussing it openly, you are showing the person that you care about them, that you take them seriously, and that you are willing to let them share their pain with you. By asking whether the person is suicidal, you are giving them the opportunity to release pent-up and painful feelings. Any discussion will help you to determine how far along the way to completion their plans are.”3

  • Remember, it is not how bad the problem is; it is how badly it is hurting the person who has it (Ainsworth, 2011). As human beings, we all have our strengths and growing edges. It is those edges – our “Achilles heels” – that function as the weak links in our chain of problem-solving. What is a nuisance factor to one person might be an overwhelming problem for someone else.”3

  • Remain vigilant and supportive. Improvement does not mean that the risk of suicide is over. “Most suicides occur within days or weeks of “improvement” when the individual has the energy and motivation to actually follow through with his/her suicidal thoughts (Clayton, J., n.d.).”4

Reference List

1. http://www.rch.org.au/cah/research/Youth_Suicide_in_Australia/  The Royal Children’s Hospital Melbourne, Centre for Adolescent Health, Youth Suicide in Australia, Cited online 8/8/2013.

2. Kalafat, J. & Underwood, M. (undated), Making Educators Partners in Suicide Prevention. . Lifelines: A School-Based Youth Suicide Prevention Initiative. Society for the Prevention of Teen Suicide. Retrieved from: http://spts.pldm.com/. Cited in Suicide: Statistics, Characterictics and Myths, AIPC (Australian Institute of Professional Counsellors) Article Library, June 14, 2012. http://www.aipc.net.au/articles/suicide-statistics-characteristics-and-myths/ Cited online 9/8/2013.

3. Suicide: Statistics, Characterictics and Myths, AIPC (Australian Institute of Professional Counsellors) Article Library, June 14, 2012. http://www.aipc.net.au/articles/suicide-statistics-characteristics-and-myths/ Cited online 9/8/2013.

4. Clayton, J. Suicide Prevention: Saving Lives One Community at a Time. American Foundation for Suicide Prevention. http://www.afsp.org/files/Misc_//standardizedpresentation.ppt. (Cited online: See reference 2.)

5. Haesler, Dan, It’s time to confront the deadliest demon of them all, The Sydney Morning Herald, Federal Politics, Nov. 2010. http://www.smh.com.au/federal-politics/society-and-culture/its-time-to-confront-the-deadliest-demon-of-them-all-20101102-17c9c.html#ixzz2bTAFSr5h Cited online 9/8/2013

6. Teenage Suicide Raises Alarm, B. Hiatt, The West Australian, Aug. 2, 2012 http://au.news.yahoo.com/thewest/a/-/breaking/14432248/teenage-suicides-raise-alarm/ Cited online 10/8/2013

Further Reading / Useful Links



Thursday, August 8, 2013

More quotes to inspire....

“Someday, we'll forget the hurt, the reason we cried, and who caused us pain. We will finally realize that the secret of being free is not revenge, but letting things unfold in their own way and own time. After all, what matters is not the first, but the last chapter of our life which shows how well we ran the race. So smile, laugh, forgive, believe, and love all over again.”—Unknown


“When we change the way we look at things, the things we look at change.”—Wayne Dyer


“Emancipate yourself from mental slavery.
None but ourselves can free our minds.” Bob Marley, Redemption Song.


“I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they're right, you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.”—Marilyn Monroe

“Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that.”―Martin Luther King Jr. A Testament of Hope: The Essential Writings and Speeches.



“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”―Eleanor Roosevelt, This is My Story.



“To stop the flow of music would be like the stopping of time itself, incredible and inconceivable.”―Aaron Copland


“In the name of God, stop a moment, cease your work, look around you.”―Leo Tolstoy

Wednesday, June 12, 2013

An antidote for whining kids, By Tracey Vale


I use this analogy to counteract whining in my children--and it works!

“Each morning when I open my eyes I say to myself: I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy today. I can choose which it shall be. Yesterday is dead, tomorrow hasn’t arrived yet. I have just one day, today, and I’m going to be happy in it.” - Groucho Marx


Copyright Tracey Vale 2013
Last school holidays, for example, the kids and I had driven to Hallet Cove and were enjoying the breath-taking cliff and coastal views from the boardwalk that spans from the cove almost to Marino Rocks. We had already done some beach combing and rock-skimming and were feeling quite warm despite the coolness of the Autumn day, when we began the ascent to the boardwalk. The views are fantastic and the walk around the cliffs, up and down steps at times, was tiring--but what's to dislike about a challenge when the visual rewards are there for the appreciating?

Copyright Tracey Vale, 2013
A lot, apparently, if my 10-year-old son was to be believed. There he was on this beautiful 'sunshiney' day, wearing the most miserable, bored, snarly face he could muster. Coupled with this, he kept whining--one of my pet hates. We had just reached a section of the walk that takes a V-shape inland and inbetween two hills. So, let me paint the picture--we're in a valley and we have just reached the far-side of the V so that we are now facing the point where the view between the green(ish) hills is of the deep blue ocean. Add to that, the stream directly below us which was flowing to a point where there were large boulders, thus forming waterfalls. 

Frustrated that his mood still hadn't improved despite the beauty around 
Copyright Tracey Vale, 2013
him, I say "Okay--it's like this. You can choose to be miserable and grumpy or you can look around you and appreciate what there is and where you are and choose to be happy about it.". I pointed to his other three siblings who were loving it and running ahead to where the waterfall was breaking over the rocks (one of whom was five and therefore much more likely not to cope with a walk, but, hey, look at him!), "No-one else is complaining. They're having a great time. I'll leave it with you--it's your choice. Think about how you want to feel today." I walked ahead.


Before long, he was loving it too.

Wednesday, June 5, 2013

Bicycles, politics and society~ some related quotes



Let me tell you what I think of bicycling. I think it has done more to emancipate women than anything else in the world. It gives women a feeling of freedom and self-reliance. I stand and rejoice
From Punch magazine, 1895. Dress vs. bicycle attire.
(Source: Wikimedia Commons)
every time I see a woman ride by on a wheel...the picture of free, untrammeled womanhood. -Susan B. Anthony, 1896.


When man invented the bicycle he reached the peak of his attainments. Here was a machine of precision and balance for the convenience of man. And (unlike subsequent inventions for man’s convenience) the more he used it, the fitter his body became. Here, for once, was a product of man’s brain that was entirely beneficial to those who used it, and of no harm or irritation to others. Progress should have stopped when man invented the bicycle. -Elizabeth West

Bicycling is a big part of the future. It has to be. There is something wrong with a society that drives a car to work out in a gym. -Bill Nye, scientist and producer of science television programs.


Government must help to eliminate cars so that bicycles can help to eliminate government.- Advocacy slogan in Holland.

Advertisement from 1897 showing bloomers.
(Source:Wikimedia Commons)
The bicycle will accomplish more for women’s sensible dress than all the reform movements that have ever been waged. -Author unknown, from Demerarest’s Family Magazine, 1895.

I began to feel that myself plus the bicycle equaled myself plus the world, upon whose spinning wheel we must all learn to ride, or fall into the sluice ways of oblivion and despair. That which made me succeed with the bicycle was precisely what had gained me a measure of success in life -- it was the hardihood of spirit that led me to begin, the persistence of will that held me to my task, and the patience that was willing to begin again when the last stroke had failed. And so I found high moral uses in the bicycle and can commend it as a teacher without pulpit or creed. She who succeeds in gaining the mastery of the bicycle will gain the mastery of life. -Frances E. Willard, How I Learned To Ride The Bicycle, 1895. 


It would not be at all strange if history came to the conclusion that the perfection of the bicycle was the greatest incident of the nineteenth century. -Anonymous
Early 20th Century bicycle. (Source: Wikimedia Commons)

If, during the Second World War, the United States had retooled its factories for manufacturing bicycles instead of munitions, we’d be one of the healthiest, least oil-dependent, and most environmentally-sound constituents in the Nazi empire today. -Ralph Nader


Tuesday, June 4, 2013

For the love of a bicycle......


Bicycles, sporting a frame today that is not far removed from that of the late 1800s, have been an important part of society for well over a century for both its usefulness and its ability to boost the spirit, as the following bicycle quotes will attest:

The bicycle has a soul. If you succeed to love it, it will give you emotions that you will never forget. -
1886 Swift Safety Bicycle (Source: Wikimedia Commons)
Mario Cipollini


It is by riding a bicycle that you learn the contours of a country best, since you have to sweat up the hills and coast down them. Thus you remember them as they actually are, while in a motor car only a high hill impresses you, and you have no such accurate remembrance of country you have driven through as you gain by riding a bicycle. -Ernest Hemingway

Nothing compares to the simple pleasure of a bike ride. -John F. Kennedy

Every time I see an adult on a bicycle, I no longer despair for the future of the human race. -H.G. Wells

As a kid I had a dream - I wanted to own my own bicycle. When I got the bike I must have been the happiest boy in Liverpool, maybe the world. I lived for that bike. Most kids left their bike in the backyard at night. Not me. I insisted on taking mine indoors and the first night I even kept it in my bed. -John Lennon

When the spirits are low, when the day appears dark, when work becomes monotonous, when hope hardly seems worth having, just mount a bicycle and go out for a spin down the road, without thought on anything but the ride you are taking. -Sherlock Holmes author, Arthur Conan Doyle, Scientific American, 1896

Next to a leisurely walk I enjoy a spin on my tandem bicycle. It is splendid to feel the wind blowing in my face and the springy motion of my iron steed. The rapid rush through the air gives me a delicious sense of strength and buoyancy, and the exercise makes my pulse dance and my heart sing. -Helen Keller.

It is by riding a bicycle that you learn the contours of a country best, since you have to sweat up the hills and coast down them. Thus you remember them as they actually are, while in a motor car only a high hill impresses you, and you have no such accurate remembrance of country you have driven through as you gain by riding a bicycle. -Ernest Hemingway

Whoever invented the bicycle deserves the thanks of humanity. -Lord Charles Beresford

Life is like a 10 speed bicycle. Most of us have gears we never use. -Charles M. Schulz

Cycle tracks will abound in Utopia. -H.G. Wells

Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance you must keep moving. -Albert Einstein, letter to his son Eduard, 1930

I feel that I am entitled to my share of lightheartedness and there is nothing wrong with enjoying one's self simply, like a boy. -Leo Tolstoy, in defence when criticised for learning to ride a bicycle, aged 67.

The journey of life is like a man riding a bicycle. We know he got on the bicycle and started to move. We know that at some point he will stop and get off. We know that if he stops moving and does not get off he will fall off. -William G. Golding, Nobel Laureate and author of The lord of the flies.

After your first day of cycling, one dream is inevitable. A memory of motion lingers in the muscles of your legs, and round and round they seem to go. You ride through Dreamland on wonderful dream bicycles that change and grow. -H.G. Wells, The Wheels of Chance

Let a man find himself, in distinction from others, on top of two wheels with a chain--at least in a poor country like Russia--and his vanity begins to swell out like his tires. -Leon Trotsky

I finally concluded that all failure was from a wobbling will rather than a wobbling wheel. -Frances E. Willard

The bicycle is just as good company as most husbands and, when it gets old and shabby, a woman can dispose of it and get a new one without shocking the entire community. -Ann Strong, Minneapolis Tribune, 1895.

The bicycle, the bicycle, surely should always be the vehicle of novelists and poets. -Christopher Morely Nobel prize winner

If I can bicycle, I bicycle. -David Attenborough